{"id":7913,"date":"2024-12-27T08:07:38","date_gmt":"2024-12-27T13:07:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.silvercentury.org\/?p=7913"},"modified":"2024-12-27T08:07:38","modified_gmt":"2024-12-27T13:07:38","slug":"older-americans-are-living-alone-in-historic-numbers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/78.142.243.82\/~silvercentury\/2024\/12\/older-americans-are-living-alone-in-historic-numbers\/","title":{"rendered":"Older Americans Are Living Alone in Historic Numbers"},"content":{"rendered":"

Through interviews with older people who live alone, <\/span><\/i>j<\/span><\/i>ournalist Judith Graham captures what their situations are like and how they manage as health issues and other problems arise. She wrote her story for <\/span><\/i>KFF Health News<\/a>,<\/span> which posted it on September 17, 2024. It also ran on the <\/span><\/i>Washington Post<\/span><\/a>. <\/span>Funding from the Silver Century Foundation helps <\/span><\/i>KFF Health News<\/span> develop articles (like this one) on longevity and related health and social issues.<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

Gerri Norington, 78, never wanted to be on her own as she grew old.<\/span><\/p>\n

But her first marriage ended in divorce, and her second husband died more than 30 years ago. When a five-year relationship came to a close in 2006, she found herself alone\u2014a situation that has lasted since.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI miss having a companion who I can talk to and ask \u2018How was your day?\u2019 or \u2018What do you think of what\u2019s going on in the world?\u2019\u201d said Norington, who lives in an apartment building for seniors on the South Side of Chicago. Although she has a loving daughter in the city, \u201cI don\u2019t want to be a burden to her,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n

Norington is part of a large but often overlooked group: the more than 16 million Americans living alone while growing old. Surprisingly little is known about their experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

Older people who live alone are more likely to become isolated and depressed and to have accidents. <\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

This slice of the older population has significant health issues: nearly four in 10 seniors living alone have vision or hearing loss, difficulty caring for themselves and living independently, problems with cognition, or other disabilities, according to a KFF analysis of 2022 census data.<\/span><\/p>\n

If help at home isn\u2019t available when needed\u2014an altogether too common problem\u2014being alone can magnify these difficulties and contribute to worsening health.<\/span><\/p>\n

Studies find that seniors on their own are at higher risk of becoming isolated, depressed, and inactive, having accidents and neglecting to care for themselves. As a result, they tend to be hospitalized more often and suffer earlier-than-expected deaths.<\/span><\/p>\n

Getting medical services can be a problem, especially if older adults living alone reside in rural areas or don\u2019t drive. Too often, experts observe, health care providers don\u2019t ask about older adults\u2019 living situations and are unaware of the challenges they face.<\/span><\/p>\n

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During the past six months, I\u2019ve spoken to dozens of older adults who live alone either by choice or by circumstance\u2014most commonly, a spouse\u2019s death. Some have adult children or other close relatives who are involved in their lives; many don\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

In lengthy conversations, these seniors expressed several common concerns: How did I end up alone at this time of life? Am I OK with that? Who can I call on for help? Who can make decisions on my behalf if I\u2019m unable to? How long will I be able to take care of myself, and what will happen when I can\u2019t?<\/span><\/p>\n

This \u201cgray revolution\u201d in Americans\u2019 living arrangements is fueled by longer life spans, rising rates of divorce and childlessness, smaller families, the geographic dispersion of family members, an emphasis on aging in place and a preference for what Eric Klinenberg, PhD, a professor of sociology at New York University, calls \u201cintimacy at a distance\u201d\u2014being close to family but not too close.<\/span><\/p>\n

The most reliable, up-to-date data about older adults who live alone comes from the US Census Bureau. According to its 2023 Current Population Survey, about 28 percent of people 65 and older live by themselves, including slightly fewer than six million men and slightly more than ten million women. (The figure doesn\u2019t include seniors living in institutions, primarily assisted living and nursing homes.)<\/span><\/p>\n

By contrast, one in 10 older Americans lived on their own in 1950.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is, first and foremost, an older women\u2019s issue, because women outlive men and because they\u2019re less likely to remarry after being widowed or divorcing. Twenty-seven percent of women ages 65 to 74 live alone, compared with 21 percent of men. After age 75, an astonishing 43 percent of women live alone, compared with only 24 percent for men.<\/span><\/p>\n

The majority\u20148 percent\u2014of people who live alone after age 65 are divorced or widowed, twice the rate of the general population, according to KFF\u2019s analysis of 2022 census data. More than 20 percent have incomes below $13,590, the federal poverty line in 2022, while 27 percent make between that and $27,180, twice the poverty level.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Of course, their experiences vary considerably. How older adults living alone are faring depends on their financial status, their housing, their networks of friends and family members, and resources in the communities where they live.<\/span><\/p>\n

Attitudes can make a difference. Many older adults relish being independent, while others feel abandoned. It\u2019s common for loneliness to come and go, even among people who have caring friends and family members.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI like being alone better than I like being in relationships,\u201d said Janice Chavez of Denver, who said she\u2019s in her 70s. \u201cI don\u2019t have to ask anybody for anything. If I want to sleep late, I sleep late. If I want to stay up and watch TV, I can. I do whatever I want to do. I love the independence and the freedom.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Chavez is twice divorced and has been on her own since 1985. As a girl, she wanted to be married and have lots of kids, but \u201cI picked jerks,\u201d she said. She talks to her daughter, Tracy, every day, and is close to several neighbors. She lives in the home she grew up in, inherited from her mother in 1991. Her only sibling, a brother, died a dozen years ago.<\/span><\/p>\n

In Chicago, Norington is wondering whether to stay in her senior building or move to the suburbs after her car was vandalized this year. \u201cSince the pandemic, fear has almost paralyzed me from getting out as much as I would like,\u201d she told me.<\/span><\/p>\n

She\u2019s a take-charge person who has been deeply involved in her community. In 2016, Norington started an organization for single Black seniors in Chicago that sponsored speed dating events and monthly socials for several years. She volunteered with a local medical center doing outreach to seniors and brought health and wellness classes to her building. She organized cruises for friends and acquaintances to the Caribbean and Hawaii in 2022 and 2023.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, every morning, Norington sends a spiritual text message to 40 people, who often respond with messages of their own. \u201cIt helps me to feel less alone, to feel a sense of inclusion,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n

In Maine, Ken Elliott, 77, a retired psychology professor, lives by himself in a house in Mount Vernon, a town of 1,700 people 20 miles northwest of the state capital. He never married and doesn\u2019t have children. His only living relative is an 80-year-old brother in California.<\/span><\/p>\n

For several years, Elliott has tried to raise the profile of solo agers among Maine policymakers and senior organizations. This began when Elliott started inquiring about resources available to older adults living by themselves, like him. How were they getting to doctor appointments? Who was helping when they came home from the hospital and needed assistance? What if they needed extra help in the home but couldn\u2019t afford it?<\/span><\/p>\n

To Elliott\u2019s surprise, he found this group wasn\u2019t on anyone\u2019s radar, and he began advocating on solo agers\u2019 behalf.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, Elliott is thinking about how to put together a team of people who can help him as he ages in place\u2014and how to build a stronger sense of community. \u201cAging without a mythic family support system\u2014which everyone assumes people have\u2014is tough for everybody,\u201d Elliott said.<\/span><\/p>\n

Turning to friends for help is no solution for many solitary seniors. Their friends, also aging, have their own problems. <\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In Manhattan, Lester Shane, 72, who never married or had children, lives by himself in an 11-by-14-foot studio apartment on the third floor of a building without an elevator. He didn\u2019t make much money during a long career as an actor, a writer, and a theater director, and he\u2019s not sure how he\u2019ll make ends meet once he stops teaching at Pace University.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThere are days when I\u2019m carrying my groceries up three flights of stairs when I think, \u2018This is really hard,\u2019\u201d Shane told me. Although his health is pretty good, he knows that won\u2019t last forever.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI\u2019m on all the lists for senior housing\u2014all, lottery situations. Most of the people I\u2019ve talked to said you will probably die before your number comes up,\u201d he said with mordant humor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Then Shane turned serious. \u201cI\u2019m old and getting older, and whatever problems I have now are only going to get worse,\u201d he said. As is the case for many older adults who live alone, his friends are getting older and having difficulties of their own.<\/span><\/p>\n

The prospect of having no one he knows well to turn to is alarming, Shane admitted. \u201cUnderneath that is fear.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Kate Shulamit Fagan, 80, has lived on her own since 1979, after two divorces. \u201cIt was never my intention to live alone,\u201d she told me in a lengthy phone conversation. \u201cI expected that I would meet someone and start another relationship and somehow sail off into the rest of my life. It\u2019s been exceedingly hard to give up that expectation.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

When I first spoke to Fagan, in mid-March, she was having difficulty in Philadelphia, where she\u2019d moved two years earlier to be close to one of her sons. \u201cI\u2019ve been really lonely recently,\u201d she told me, describing how difficult it was to adjust to a new life in a new place. Although her son was attentive, Fagan desperately missed the close circle of friends she\u2019d left behind in St. Petersburg, FL, where she\u2019d lived and worked for 30 years.<\/span><\/p>\n

Four and a half months later, when I called Fagan again, she\u2019d returned to St. Petersburg and was renting a one-bedroom apartment in a senior building in the center of the city. She\u2019d celebrated her birthday there with 10 close friends and was meeting people in her building. \u201cI\u2019m not completely settled, but I feel fabulous,\u201d she told me.<\/span><\/p>\n

What accounted for the change? \u201cHere, I know if I want to go out or I need help, quite a few people would be there for me,\u201d Fagan said. \u201cThe fear is gone.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Gerri Norington, 78, never wanted to be on her own as she grew old. <\/span>But her first marriage ended in divorce, and her second husband died more than 30 years ago.<\/span><\/p>\n

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