{"id":8090,"date":"2025-05-28T07:37:21","date_gmt":"2025-05-28T11:37:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.silvercentury.org\/?p=8090"},"modified":"2025-05-28T07:38:54","modified_gmt":"2025-05-28T11:38:54","slug":"resources-are-expanding-for-older-adults-who-live-alone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/78.142.243.82\/~silvercentury\/2025\/05\/resources-are-expanding-for-older-adults-who-live-alone\/","title":{"rendered":"Resources Are Expanding for Older Adults Who Live Alone\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Finally, help is available for older people who live on their own without family to provide support. In this article that journalist Judith Graham wrote for <\/span><\/i>KFF Health News<\/a>, <\/span> she describes some of these new resources and interviews seniors who are benefitting from them. <\/span><\/i>KFF <\/span>posted her article on December 9, 2024. Her story also ran on the <\/span><\/i>Washington Post<\/a>.<\/span> Funding from the Silver Century Foundation helps <\/span><\/i>KFF Health News<\/span> develop articles (like this one) on longevity and related health and social issues.<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

Jeff Kromrey, 69, will sit down with his daughter the next time she visits and show her how to access his online accounts if he has an unexpected health crisis.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gayle Williams-Brett, 69, plans to tackle a project she\u2019s been putting off for months: organizing all her financial information.<\/span><\/p>\n

Michael Davis, 71, is going to draft a living will and ask a close friend to be his health care surrogate and executor of his estate.<\/span><\/p>\n

These seniors have been inspired to take these and other actions by an innovative course for such \u201csolo agers\u201d: Aging Alone Together, offered by <\/span>Dorot<\/a>,<\/span> a social services agency in New York City.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most of them live alone, without a spouse, a partner or adult children to help them manage as they grow older.<\/span><\/p>\n

Older adults who live on their own, and have no family members they can rely on, need to create their own support systems.<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Until a few years ago, few resources were available for this growing slice of the older population.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now, there are several Facebook groups for solo agers, as well as in-person groups springing up around the country, conferences and webinars, a national clearinghouse of resources and an expanding array of books on the topic.<\/span><\/p>\n

All address these seniors\u2019 need to connect with other people, prevent isolation and prepare for a future when they might become less robust, encounter more health issues and need more assistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cOlder adults who cannot rely on family members need to be very intentional about creating support systems and putting other plans in place,\u201d said Ailene Gerhardt, BCPA, a patient advocate in Boston who created the <\/span>Navigating Solo Network<\/span><\/a> three years ago.<\/span><\/p>\n

In a <\/span>survey<\/span><\/a> published last year, AARP\u2014which broadens the definition of older Americans to people 50 and older\u2014examined those who live alone and don\u2019t have living children. Ten percent of those 50 or older meet this definition, AARP estimates. An additional 11 percent have at least one living child but are estranged from them. And 13 percent have children who they believe can\u2019t or won\u2019t help them manage their finances and health care.<\/span><\/p>\n

Preparing in isolation for the future can be daunting. \u201cIf solo agers don\u2019t feel they have people to talk to as they craft their aging plan, they often will skip the whole process,\u201d said Gerhardt, who endorses a group-planning model for these seniors.<\/span><\/p>\n

One of the organization\u2019s goals is to help participants overcome the fear so many older adults feel when peering into their uncertain futures.<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

That\u2019s the format Dorot has adopted for Aging Alone Together, which is available nationally online, free of charge, and in person in New York City. More than 1,000 people have participated in the program since it launched in 2021. Dorot is working with partners around the country to expand its reach.<\/span><\/p>\n

The program consists of six, 90-minute, interactive, weekly sessions that focus on these seniors\u2019 key concerns: building communities of support, figuring out where to live, completing advance care directives such as living wills and getting financial and legal affairs in order.<\/span><\/p>\n

One goal is to help participants identify their priorities and overcome the fear and hesitation that so many older adults feel when peering into their uncertain futures, said Claire Nisen, a Dorot staffer who runs the program. Another is to offer practical tools, advice, and resources that can spur people to action.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yet another is to foster a sense of community that promotes a \u201ccan do\u201d attitude. As Nisen said repeatedly when I took the course in September and October, \u201cSolo aging doesn\u2019t mean aging alone.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

That message resonated deeply with Williams-Brett, who lives with her severely disabled mother, 97, in a two-story brownstone in Brooklyn. Williams-Brett, who is divorced and never had children, expects to be on her own as she grows older. Her mother had a devastating stroke three years ago, and since then Williams-Brett has been her full-time caregiver.<\/span><\/p>\n

Overwhelmed by everything on her to-do list\u2014declutter the house, make home repairs, straighten out her finances, safeguard her mother\u2019s health\u2014Williams-Brett told me she\u2019d been struggling with shame and fear. \u201cAll the time, I feel I\u2019m not doing what I should be well enough,\u201d she said.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hearing other seniors voice similar concerns during Aging Alone Together sessions, Williams-Brett realized she didn\u2019t judge them as she was judging herself. \u201cI thought, we all have issues we\u2019re dealing with,\u201d she said. \u201cYou don\u2019t have anything to feel ashamed of.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

One man realized he had become too isolated; another, that he needed to prepare in case he had a sudden health crisis.<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Kromrey, who lives alone in Tampa, FL, knows he\u2019s fortunate to be healthy, financially stable and very close with his adult daughter, who will be his health care and legal decision-maker should he become incapacitated. Kromrey, widowed nine years ago, also has three sons\u2014two in South Carolina and one in West Palm Beach, FL.<\/span><\/p>\n

While participating in Aging Alone Together, Kromrey realized he had assumed he\u2019d never have a health crisis such as a stroke or heart attack\u2014a common form of denial.<\/span><\/p>\n

His daughter and her husband planned to travel from North Carolina to join Kromrey over Thanksgiving. During that visit, Kromrey said, he would give her passwords to his computer and online accounts, explain his system for keeping track of bills and show her where other important files are.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThat way, she\u2019ll just be able to take right over if something unexpected occurs,\u201d he said.<\/span><\/p>\n

Davis is an artist who never married, doesn\u2019t have siblings and lives alone in Manhattan. In a phone conversation, he said his most pressing concern is \u201cfinding something to do that\u2019s worthwhile\u201d now that arthritis has made it difficult for him to paint.<\/span><\/p>\n

In some ways, Davis is prepared for the future. He has a long term care insurance policy that will pay for help in the home, and a rent-regulated apartment in a building with an elevator. But he recognizes that he\u2019s become too isolated as his artistic activities have waned.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThere are days that go by when I don\u2019t say a word to anyone,\u201d Davis acknowledged. \u201cI have my friends, but they have their own lives, with their children and grandchildren. I\u2019m turning to Dorot for more social contact. And Aging Alone Together has helped me focus on the here and now.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n